{"id":1852,"date":"2019-05-08T11:22:44","date_gmt":"2019-05-08T11:22:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.idealflatmate.co.uk\/flatmate-HQ\/?p=1852"},"modified":"2019-05-31T08:25:52","modified_gmt":"2019-05-31T08:25:52","slug":"disclosing-autism-to-flatmates","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"\/flatmate-HQ\/disclosing-autism-to-flatmates\/","title":{"rendered":"Disclosing Autism to Flatmates | Ambitious About Autism"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Disclosing an autistic identity is all up to personal preference. Some people are really open about their autism diagnosis and some prefer not to tell that many people. Autism is an integral part of a person and sharing their identity can be a quite anxiety provoking of the person doing it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Just as autism is a spectrum of differences in how a person understands the world around them, how someone feels about being autistic or having autism is also a spectrum. For some autistic people, sharing that they are autistic is something they are very comfortable with. They may know what their differences are, what helps them and not feel negative about their autistic identity. For others it can be a completely different story, others perception of autism can mean that you don\u2019t feel comfortable with your autistic differences, you see it as a deficit or autism has always been viewed as negative or shameful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"525\" height=\"295\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-jTS38__t8w?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Some top tips for finding the place and time you\u2019re most comfortable to talk about being autistic:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Don\u2019t rush. You don\u2019t have to share your diagnosis in your first introduction, you can mention it later in a conversation or wait until a later date.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">You don\u2019t always have to introduce differences as autistic. You can talk about what you struggle with, the differences you have and things that help you.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Find a place where you feel comfortable. You can tell someone in the house or flat, a public place or even not in person by a written note or over the phone.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Have a friend with you. Having someone who already knows you\u2019re autistic or can support you can really help in case you get overwhelmed or a reaction you don\u2019t want.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">You don\u2019t have to share. Disclosing is a personal decision, it can context for the way you act, how you communicate and what support works best for you but it\u2019s your choice to share.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Disclosing that you\u2019re autistic can be really scary, a relief, enable support and an indication of trust all at the same time, so it is and should always be the decision of the autistic person to disclose. Preparing to be in that situation can be really helpful for an autistic person, to know what to say and prepare answers for some of the inevitable questions and statements.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">When talking about autism it can be easy to slip into the negatives or self-deprecating comparisons, sometimes saying \u2018I\u2019m autistic and that means I can\u2026\u2019 is really difficult if you don\u2019t know what you do well. When thinking about disclosing it is always nice to think about what you can do, what you struggle with and the common myths and stereotypes that exist about autism. Tackling all of this is a big task and doesn\u2019t have to be done with every person you tell your autistic as each disclosure is unique- even if you tell a big group at once.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">If you think your flatmate is autistic, don\u2019t force them to say whether they are or aren\u2019t- many people don\u2019t actually have a diagnosis as it can be really hard to get and they might not actually be autistic, they might just share some of the traits that are common in autism. In a situation like this, where you think autism might explain how someone behaves or how they talk the best thing to do is provide them with a welcoming and supportive environment. That way even if they are autistic or not, you\u2019re still actually just being a decent person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">By Sarah O\u2019Brien-Quilty from <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ambitiousaboutautism.org.uk\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Ambitious about Autism<\/span><\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Disclosing an autistic identity is all up to personal preference. Some people are really open about their autism diagnosis and some prefer not to tell that many people. Autism is an integral part of a person and sharing their identity can be a quite anxiety provoking of the person doing it. Just as autism is &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"\/flatmate-HQ\/disclosing-autism-to-flatmates\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;Disclosing Autism to Flatmates | Ambitious About Autism&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":1858,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[15],"tags":[87,88,29,30,89,51],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"\/flatmate-HQ\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1852"}],"collection":[{"href":"\/flatmate-HQ\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"\/flatmate-HQ\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"\/flatmate-HQ\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"\/flatmate-HQ\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1852"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"\/flatmate-HQ\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1852\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1987,"href":"\/flatmate-HQ\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1852\/revisions\/1987"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"\/flatmate-HQ\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1858"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"\/flatmate-HQ\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1852"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"\/flatmate-HQ\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1852"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"\/flatmate-HQ\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1852"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}